There’s one benefit of not having luck in love–years of looking on the bright side of relationship failure teach you to nope out like a champion. If you’re not there yet, and you need a little inspiration, allow me: A breakup is your moment of empowerment. You now have freedom and a lot of extra time for yourself. What are you going to do with it?
Two things are certain:
- There is a unique healing path for you.
- A number of things can help you feel better.
Accepting Reality and Owning Your Decision
A breakup isn’t a fight, and ‘breaking up’ and getting back together isn’t really breaking up. With breakups, there’s always a moment of no return. Every couple has one—either that or they live happily ever after until they die. Being able to witness this moment and accept it is a life skill. If you can master it, your breakups will be easier.
Talking to Friends
I love my friends, and I’m so thankful—since I forgot to do an official Thanksgiving post—for all of them. Family too. The people in my life remind me that I’m strong, and that is awesome. I hope you all have that too, but if you don’t, you can find it. Relationships are hard, and there are so many people going through the same things.
Cry, yell, or talk shit all you like, but avoid drama by keeping it private. If you spew your rage all over social media, you might regret it later.
Try embracing the sadness and knowing it will help you heal. You’re constantly processing and learning from things. Commit to moving forward, and the dark moments won’t last very long.
Books and movies can be therapeutic. Every storyteller has a unique take on relationships, and there’s always something to be learned. When you’re really feeling low, remember this important truth: it’s okay to view binge-watching shows on Netflix as your only reason for living. Don’t worry, everything will improve.
You’ve made the decision. You’re in the new chapter … and then one day, you miss your ex, and the cycle starts over. This results in neither a resolution to problems or an arrival at the point of no return. If you want to get over your break up, committing to your decision (or choosing acceptance if the decision wasn’t yours) is empowering.
When you’ve grieved, and things balance a bit, it’ll be time to start visualizing the future you want. Maybe that means a thrilling new romance. It could mean time to focus on your career goals, heal from the past, or work on your relationship with God. Make vision boards to keep the things you want to do fresh in your mind. Focus helps.
A lot of us have baggage from the past, and a breakup is a great opportunity to throw yourself into healing. What scars from the past are affecting you now? Do you have emotional damage that needs to be healed? Taking the time to work on yourself is like announcing to the universe that you are worthy of a great future. And
you are. So don’t be afraid to face tough issues head on. Something that helps me a lot is EFT.
Believing in Love
Many blame themselves,sometimes even claiming that they must not be meant for relationships. It’s fine to choose the single life, just remember that every relationship is different. The only way to find romance with the right person is to make sure the wrong person—and all associated baggage—aren’t taking up any room inside your heart.
Loving Your Body
A breakup is a great time to make a fresh commitment to your body and health. Sweat out your pain at the gym, hit the dance floor, and never underestimate the amount of trauma that one relaxing yoga session can undo. A healthy diet filled with fruits and vegetables will help you sharpen your mind and sort out your healing process.
You can get through this breakup. You’re a work in progress, and you have more power over your future than you know. Utilize it by maximizing your time and putting your freedom to work for you. Develop yourself and you will go far.
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